A new study has tried to figure out what the majority of people consider CHEATING or NOT CHEATING. Any sexual contact is cheating . . . sexting or having sexual conversations is cheating . . . watching porno solo is not cheating . . . and flirting or browsing a dating website isn't cheating, but WILL lead to a serious discussion.
We think it's worthwhile to know what the majority of people do and don't consider CHEATING. Even though it may be different than the definition of cheating in YOUR relationship, and won't be considered reasonable evidence when you fight.
--A researcher at the University of New Brunswick in Canada is working on his psychology thesis and conducted a major survey of people 18 to 67, asking them what they do and don't count as cheating. Here are the results.
--CHEATING. Anything involving sexual contact, from kissing to sex. The majority of people also include sexual conversations, sexting, and sending nude photos, even though there's no physical contact.
--NOT CHEATING, BUT WORTH FIGHTING ABOUT. Flirting, dancing closely, browsing a dating website, holding hands, and watching a movie alone with someone of the opposite sex at their home aren't cheating, but WILL lead to serious discussions.
--NOT CHEATING. The majority of people say that watching porno by yourself, having dinner with someone of the opposite sex, and receiving emotional support from a friend of the opposite sex do not count as cheating.
--But if you LIE about doing any of those things . . . like you have something to hide . . . THEN they cross the line into requiring a discussion.